During the rough season of raising Nate, when his behavior was overwhelming for me, I received encouragement from family, friends, and even strangers. Many would tell me that they were praying for me and they encouraged me to trust God. A few of them would then look at me with sincerity in their eyes as they would say…..
“God Will Not Give You More Than You Can Handle!”
“God would not have given you Nate if He knew that you could not handle it.”
In the early years of caring for my son, I considered this statement as truth. I believed it and took it as inspiration that, “I can do this.” However, when Nate’s behavior problems increased, instead of feeling strong to care for Nate, I felt frustrated.
“Why am I having so many problems?” I cried out to God.
“I am strong?”
“ I should be able to do this?”
“God, would you have given me Nate, if I couldn’t handle him?” I asked in frustration.
It wasn’t until later that I began to question those statements. Is it true, does God give you more than you can handle? Would God have given me Nate if He knew that I could not handle him?
After a while, I began to understand that God does allow us to experience difficult challenges. In John 16:33, it reads, “In the world you will have tribulation….” It is inevitable. However, God doesn’t leave us alone to handle them by ourselves. He knows that our strength is actually weak, feeble, and limited. Instead, God wants us to look to Him for all we need. It is in God’s strength and in His strength alone that will allow us to handle all the difficulties and challenges of life.
“Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might…” (Ephesians 6:10)
“And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.” (2 Corinthians 12:9)
“I can do all things through Christ with strength in me.” (Philippians 4:19)
but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33)
This reminds me of the first few verses of the song, “In Christ Alone”
“In Christ alone my hope is found;
He is my light, my strength, my song;
This cornerstone, this solid ground,
Firm through the fiercest drought and storm.
What heights of love, what depths of peace,
When fears are stilled, when strivings cease!
My comforter, my all in all—
Here in the love of Christ I stand.”