Over the years, Nate has suffered from behavior problems. It has improved considerably since that time. Nate can have his moments, but it is infrequent. He does continue to have self-stimulatory behaviors, where he flaps his hands, and jumps up and down. Those are not aggressive, it is just what he does.
Some staff at Nate’s residential facility don’t understand. His self-stimming scare them. They feel that he is going to harm them in one of his flapping moments. So they have labeled Nate as difficult and a problem. They don’t want to care for him, which has left me sad and crying. It breaks my heart, when I see that some staff don’t want to interact with my child out of fear.
Nate is not the only one. I have seen their attitudes and irritation for other special needs residents, not wanting to work with them. They provide minimum care, just enough to make sure the residents have what they need.
I have tactfully addressed these issues of having people in a line of work, which requires compassion, understanding, patience and most importantly, love. I’m not sure my petitions for change have been heard. So, I realize that all I can do is pray.
And God has surely provided. Within the midst of those who lack compassion and care, there are a few workers, that have gravitated to Nate. They are not afraid of him. Instead, they have made a decision to know who he is as a person; learning his likes and dislikes and how to better communicate with him. Their willingness to know him warms my heart.
And I trust and believe that God will bring more people to my child and other residents with special needs. He will bring people who have a heart like His, and will care for these residents with the love of God.
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