For years, I carried this belief that counseling was bad. I told myself that…..
“Counseling is for people who can’t get it together.”
“You are weak if you need to see a counselor.”
“There is no need for counseling….You should be able to handle your problems all by yourself.”
In the early years of raising Nate, I was offered counseling services several times. The hospital social worker and the counselor at his school, believed it would be a good idea to speak to a professional or join a parent support group for parents raising children with special needs. Yet, each time I would decline, saying…. “No thank you, I don’t need help.”
It wasn’t until years later, when I became a single parent and I found raising Nate to be rather difficult, that I realized I needed help. I contacted the counseling offices at my church and shortly afterwards, I was paired with a counselor who also had a child with special needs.
During our sessions I found my counselor’s candidness about her experience of raising her child extremely helpful. For months we discussed my hurt and pain, but especially my anger toward God for giving me a child with special needs. We would then pray and open the bible where we read scriptures to help me with my struggles.
Since that time 16 years ago, I have noticed that those conversations and lessons are still fresh in my heart and mind. Our discussions continue to help me, especially when I am experiencing rough patches with Nate or in other areas of my life. For this reason, I am eternally grateful for the time I spent in counseling.
I truly believe that we must remove the stigma, mark of disgrace, and shame associated with counseling. There is nothing wrong with acknowledging that you have a problem; admitting that you need guidance, and seeking help.
The bible tells us that counseling is good.
“Without counsel, plans go awry,
But in the multitude of counselors they are established.” (Proverbs 15:22)
“Plans are established by counsel; “(Proverbs 20:18)
“Where there is no [wise, intelligent] guidance, the people fall [and go off course like a ship without a helm],
But in the abundance of [wise and godly] counselors there is victory.”
So, if you are having a difficult time, in any area of your life, don’t be embarrassed to seek counseling. Everyone can use some help.