Would you change having your child with special needs?
This is by far, one of the top questions people ask me, since I am a parent of a child with special needs. I don’t take the question as rude or mean. I also don’t think it is a “stupid” question for someone to ask, as I know life is not such where I can change my circumstances and make them different.
Yet, when asked this question, I usually don’t have to think much about my answer. I already know it.
“No!” I say.
“No, I would not change having my child with special needs.”
Of course there are a million things I would change and do differently. What parent doesn’t have their own regrets in child rearing? However, to replace Nate with a child that didn’t have his needs would be to replace the person I have become since I gave birth to him.
God has definitely used my son to make me into the person I am today. Over the last 23 years, raising Nate has taught me so much.
1- I have learned to be strong.
2- I have learned that it is all right to be weak.
3- I have learned how to be a servant.
4- I have learned how to be self-less.
5- I have learned that I need to depend on others.
6- I have learned that it is all right to ask for help.
7- I have learned how to work as a team.
8- I have learned that it is all right to rest.
9- I have learned that sharing our life is helpful to others.
10- I have learned how to live one day at a time.
11-I have learned that I don’t need to worry (even though I still do at times).
12- I have learned from my mistakes in raising Nate.
13- I have learned that it is all right to cry.
14- I have learned not to worry about what people think.
15- I have grown in confidence.
16-I have learned to have grace, mercy, and compassion toward others.
17- I have learned patience.
18- I have learned how to pray.
19- I have learned that I need God more than anything in my life.
20- I have learned the meaning of unconditional love.
…..and so much more.
Raising Nate has blessed me greatly. It has shaped my character, attitude, and heart. So, to once again answer that question…
Would You Change Having Your Child With Special Needs?
No, I would not change having my child with special needs.
No! Not at all!
Question: What have you learned from your child with our without special needs?